Failure, failure, failure.
Failure consumes everyone’s life. It finally feels like being part of the trophy-kid generation makes sense. Hear me out.
Most millennials are coined as being the generation that received trophies just for participating. I am not advocating reward for losing.
What I am advocating for is looking past the ideology of failure. I think back to childhood baseball and getting a trophy for showing up. Psychologically, it probably taught me to try things although I wasn’t the best on the team. Because of that, I knew there was a return on trying something I may have failed at otherwise. Is this generation unafraid to try things?
On the hand, this ideology can become toxic. I am not for that.
Failure can be anything.
I didn’t wake up in time, then I snoozed three times this morning.
I failed at this task.
I forgot to eat breakfast as I ran out the door. Another fail.
Failure happens almost every hour for someone and failure has such a bad name.
If you can reflect on these processes, you can start to analyze small microtasks that create a momentum for success. The learning process between analyzing micro-failures sets you up for success.
With that, you can start to break the process of failing and start winning.
When I tell people I am fascinated by failure it freaks them out.
I don’t think they understand it…
When I started to understand it, it created a pivotal moment in my life.
It’s because it took me several years to quit beating myself up for failing at small tasks. For me giving up too easily on risks created a momentous downfall.
I was able to reflect and see the valuable lessons it taught me.
The things I have failed at have taught me valuable lessons, like risk.
This risk is very important in development. Success typically never happens for those who don’t take risks.
Think Gordon Gecko from the Movie Wall Street – Risk equals return.
Companies and people throughout the years may have thought their business would fail. Some familiar faces are Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, etc. All of these people have been rediculed for their failures and were able to turn their companies into greatness. It was learning the failing process and changing the failing perspective that has helped them.
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Taking risks and failing teaches us to learn, manage, and react to other failures almost making us more immune to small micro-failures in life.
Like children on the playground, trying new obstacles and failing. It is a critical part of development for children. How to analyze obstacles and how to defeat them after failing. Why, as we get older, do we try new things and give up after not succeeding the clear goal?
It makes you stronger. So stop beating yourself up for trying something new and not being good at it. Reflect and learn.
Change your perspective.
Here is the failing model:
1. Take risks
4. Try again and crush it
5. Keep the momentum
By using this failing model, you can the process going to succeed. Success is not instant. It takes time and it takes failure. Sometimes we are lucky and success just happens.
If it doesn’t, follow the failing model.
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Read this book to help with exercises on changing your perspective on failure: